"Anyone who intends to come with me has to
let me lead. You're not in the driver's seat; I am. Don't
run from suffering; embrace it. Follow me and I'll show
you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is
the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self. What
kind of a deal is it to get everything you want but lose
yourself? What could you ever trade your soul for?"
The Bible
John 16:24-26
(The Message)